Credit : Channel news asiaBy Favian Ng, channelnewsasia.com Posted: 25 November 2009 1242 hrs 
SINGAPORE: He has the looks and the charisma to sweep ladies off their feet but China-born actor Dai Yang Tian, who is well-known for his reclusiveness, doesn't open his heart easily.
So when I was tasked to interview the actor, I knew I had a challenge ahead of me.
When I met Dai at the media conference for Channel 8 blockbuster drama, "Together", last week, his body language said it all. He looked aloof and unapproachable but I was determined to wring some answers out of him.
After playing lovers in "The Little Nyonya" and then the musical "The Peranakan Ball", Dai and actress Jeanette Aw return as screen lovers in "Together". Set in Singapore, the pair go through a series of ordeals from the tumultuous 1960s to the 1990s before finding their happy ever after.
Thirty years is a long time. Would Dai make such a sacrifice for love?
"It's all down to fate, and I am a strong believer of that. If it happens, I will go all out to make everything work in the relationship. If it isn't [fated], I wouldn't bother getting myself into a relationship," said the Shanghai native.
The 24-year-old revealed that he has been through two relationships but alas, they were not meant to be.
"Both girls had great personalities and everything you could ask for, however, they appeared at the wrong time," he told Channelnewsasia.com
"Maybe God hasn't let the right person appear in my life."
Dai, who is currently single, is in no hurry to get into a relationship as he is waiting for everything to fall into place. And age is no concern for the actor.
"I believe I am mature enough to communicate at their level. It has to be a two-way thing as well. They have to be able to communicate and also be comfortable with my style. If all these things work, the relationship will work out," he said, before bringing fate into the picture once again.
"There are also other things such as fate. Even if two persons can communicate, it means that both of us can be friends but may not go beyond that stage."
So what's his impression of Singaporean women."Singaporean women are aggressive," he answered, to which I replied with a slightly bewildered look.
"Don't get me wrong. What I mean is that Singaporean women are more driven in terms of career compared to the Chinese. They aim for the best and work very hard to achieve it," he explained immediately.
"Maybe it's the society and environment they grew up in. They tend to be more independent compared to the Chinese women who are less independent and have a need for protection."
Describing himself opinionated and at times "chauvinistic", Dai is drawn towards girls who are understanding and gentle.
"I prefer my partner to be someone who needs me to protect her," he said, and in between those lines, he must have shattered some Singaporean girls' dreams.
Since he was so open about relationship matters, I took the opportunity to ask if he got that impression from co-star Jeanette Aw, after all, this is their third partnership in a year.
"Jeanette isn't the aggressive sort. She comes across as a very determined woman but also a very reserved person, just like me," he said. According to Dai, there are no sparks between them and they are now close friends who have finally learned to open up to one another.
"I can be quite slow to react to the situations around me. Maybe it's a man characteristic that's why I tend to be more reserved. It's hard for me to open myself to someone, but once I open up, it's impossible for me to become reserved again." - CNA/fa
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